Yes – We did IVF

Posted by 4under4 on January 14, 2011 · 15 Comments 

Alright – so it’s sort of like skeletons in the closet, most people know some people don’t. Some mind there business, some ask to many questions some approach it softly some are rude, some care, other are curious, so it really depends who you as to which story I’ve told you.

Now I’ve only had the opportunity to come up with so many stories because people ask me if I did IVF more often than they say hello to me, so sometimes it gets annoying. Like really flipping annoying. Let me tell you about Bradley:

It was March we had just gotten back from a Florida vacation, Keith and I had some ridiculous fight over me thinking he was with another woman, at that time we had just bought our house and our hardwood floors were being refinished so it reeked of glue there was dust EVERYWHERE and I was constantly getting splinters in my feet. Despite all of that we had a mattress laid out in the middle of a torn up room in our first house. It was make up sex, it was pretty hot. We weren’t not trying and we weren’t trying – The sex lasted quite a while, I’d say at least 4 hrs – I mean it was make up sex – it had to be good right. He probably penetrated me a dozen times before he blew a really hot sticky load inside my vagina – and with that he inseminated me and Bradley was conceived.

OK OK OK – that’s totally not my writing style ( but yes that it was happened) but really did you want to know that? Really did you? .. Did you really have to get that mental image of my legs spread apart on a stripped hardwood floor? I don’t think so – and it’s for that reason that I don’t think you need to know how my triplets were conceived. Really – it’s kinda personal. I certainly wouldn’t ask you to give me the details of how your 2^nd child was conceived – it’s just not common chit chat – so I invent stories – because really I don’t like getting into the whole mess of it all.

When faced with that question I have 2 options :

Option 1 – Are they natural

Me: Yes they’re natural

Asker: EVERYONE ASKS: do they run in your family

Me – Auto response: Yes my moms 3^rd cousins are triplets ( I don’t even know most of my moms third cousins and I’ve never met a triplet before mine)

— but the conversation usually stops here and we carry on – I MUCH more prefer this option!

Option 2

Me – No we did IVF

Asker- How long did you try

Me- 3 years

Asker – They let you transfer 3 eggs?

Me – Yes

Asker – You’re lucky they didn’t split

Me – oK

Anyways option 2 goes on FOREVER… and the questions get long, boring, offensive etc so I usually go with option 1 – unless I know you personally or I know you’ve struggled with infertility and I feel that we can benefit/support each other from talking about it.

So for the record – Here is the FAQ on our infertility:

Cause: Male factor with low ovarian reserve

Attempts at IVF: 3

Successful attempts: Only the one that worked

Did you ever miscarriage: Never that we know of

Why did we transfer 3: Low ovarian reserve, poor responder to meds, very little chance of even conceiving only 3 eggs viable at transfer, likelihood of triplets less than 8%

Do triplets run in my family: No

Am I happy they didn’t split: Yes

Would I go through IVF again: No

Was it expensive: Probably more than every car you’ve ever owned combined

How did you afford it: We used our money wisely

Was Bradley “natural”: Yes

Where did we do it: Ottawa Fertility Center

Did it hurt our marriage: No it made us stronger

 

So there ya have it! YES we did IVF – sorry if you heard one of many stories but honestly it gets really really tiring answering people all the time. It was a very very hard and long struggle for us, we are happy with our outcome of 3 wonderful healthy children and we just want to try to live our lives as normal people – not circus freaks!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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